The V Chronicles: A Conversation About Sex

Raquiyba, Author of The V Chronicles

All content in The V(irgin) Chronicles is based on the actual lifestyle and experiences of contributing author Raquiyba “Deborah Estelle” Bolton. Certain names, places and actual dates have been changed to protect the privacy of third parties.

The V Chronicles serves as a place to get people (and not just teens) talking about sex especially in the African American community. Hopefully you will be challenged, find humor, see yourself and be sparked to think about your own sexuality and lifestyle. The writings of the V Chronicles seek to offer a different perspective on life, love, purpose, virginity and abstinence.

It is important to say that because these writings include feelings, perspectives and side notes from Raquiyba they do not take on the definition of a Chronicle in true form. They are however a Chronicle of her life, starting from age 9 through her current age of 29.

All questions, suggestions or comments can be emailed to Michael Stagg of The Voluptua Project at voluptuaproject@gmail.com or Raquiyba Bolton at debbiestelle@yahoo.com.

Now I present to you – The V Chronicles

June 10^th 1995 – Nichelle and I were walking to her house. It was our first day of cheerleading practice. Now as an adult I realize that most schools in Brooklyn don’t really cheer! What we did was more comparable to stepping! LOL! But you couldn’t tell us that! We were fly, smart and had really long hair! We were two of the most popular girls in 6^th grade at P.S. 56. Nichelle Lee was my best friend. Our first conversation about sex? It went a little something like this!

Nichelle: “Girl you KNOW Louis is fine! Has he asked you to … Well you know”

Me: “Well, he isn’t pressuring me or anything but he says that most of us are doing it. He is fine and Puerto Rican … I don’t know girl”.

Nichelle: “Well you know Stephen and I have already done it right?”

Me: “What?! And you didn’t tell me!?!”

Nichelle: “Well I didn’t know what to say… It kind of just –  happened!”

Me: “Just happened? What does that mean? When girl? Did you like it? Did it feel good?”

Nichelle (shyly): “It kind of hurt like hell! But my sister told me that it will hurt like that until your boyfriend breaks you in… That is how it’s supposed to feel when a guy pops your cherry!”

Me: “What! You didn’t like it? I don’t know… Maybe I won’t let Louis…”

As we walked to her house on Fulton St. everything else was really a blur. I couldn’t believe my best friend had sex. I couldn’t believe she waited to tell me! I couldn’t believe she didn’t like it… I cringed! Would my first sexual experience be like this? This is NOT what I’d pictured when I first started thinking about sex… Shoot! Maybe I’ll be a Virgin forever!

* Check back next week for more from The V Chronicles *

Breakfast Anyone?

Flossie Alexander of You Can NOW! Coaching

Greetings TVP Fam!

My weight loss coach extraordinaire Flossie Alexander and I, along with some of her other Chicago clients, will be having breakfast Saturday morning at Panera Bread (501 South State Street Chicago, IL 60605-1616). We have set a time yet but assume that it will be between the hours of 9am and 11am. 🙂

If you would like to join us please comment below or connect with me directly via the Contact Page. Not familiar with Flossie or You Can NOW! Coaching? Visit the link below!

http://www.youcannowcoaching.com

About Flossie: Flossie is currently a member of the National Association of Professional Women and Toastmaster’s International. She is a Certified Personal Trainer, Certified Nutrition Coach as well as a Certified Wellness Coach with a successful track record in leading organizations and individuals into achieving healthy lifestyle goals. After overcoming obesity, losing 165 pounds in 18 months, she has developed a passion to help others through public speaking and one-on-one weight loss coaching. Visit Flossie at http://www.youcannowcoaching.com to start creating your new healthy lifestyle and lose unhealthy weight permanently.

Positively Plus: Flossie Alexander of You Can NOW! Coaching Weight Loss Solutions, LLC!

Flossie Alexander of You Can NOW! Coaching

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This week, TVP is proud to feature Flossie Alexander and You Can NOW! Coaching!

Imagine weighing nearly 400 lbs. and barely able to walk 10 steps without feeling completely exhausted. Think about what would go through your mind if you were diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia and were just a few pounds shy of having diabetes mellitus. That was the world Flossie Alexander found her self in for more than 20 years.

Like many of us, Flossie went from diet to diet, program to program searching for a solution to her weight problem only to meet with defeat time and time again … she nearly gave up hope of ever becoming healthy. Finally, faced with knee surgery before the age of 40 she embarked on a mission to find a method of weight loss that worked. Her many years of research led not only to the loss of 165 lbs.but to the creation of You Can NOW Coaching!, a weight loss and life coaching business dedicated to empowering clients with the gift of increased health and well being.

Today she is a a Certified Personal Trainer and Nutrition Coach as well as a Certified Well and Corporate Wellness Coach. She is also a member of the National Association of Professional Women and Toastmasters International. Her comprehensive program provides 24 hour support to her clients in an effort to liberate others from the shackles of obesity. Not only have clients lost weight and kept it off, some of them have gone on to become coaches with You Can NOW! in order to help others find their own personal weight loss success!

When asked what makes You Can NoW Coaching different from other more established programs this is what she had to say:

“When you see those fad diets and weight loss programs on TV they always say that their results are not typical.You buy their expensive meals and go to their meetings and most times all you have to show for it are limited (if any) weight loss and a lot of frustration. Not so with You Can NOW! Coaching! There are no meals to buy and no mandatory classes to attend. What you do get is a comprehensive step by step weight loss plan tailored to your specific needs coupled with rock solid support and tools provided by our coaches. The result is a healthier new you because at You Can NOW! Coaching the results ARE typical!”

If you are looking for a weight loss solution that doesn’t make empty promises and provides 24 hour support from compassionate and diligent coaches you owe it to yourself and your loved ones to check out You Can NOW! Coaching. Don’t wait another minute! Flossie has  dedicated her life to helping people achieve their weight loss goals. Call or email today to find out how The You Can NOW! team can help you achieve the healthy life you’ve longed for.

You Can NOW! Coaching
800.621.9770
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