Posts tagged ‘Self Acceptance’

December 6, 2010

Developing an Authentic Relationship with Your Body

by M Stagg | The Voluptua Project™

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Authenticate | © 2010 Michael Stagg

You can’t be something you’re not | No matter how hard you try.
You can’t keep grasping for the earth | Not if you hope to touch the sky
You can’t change where you’re from | You can’t deny who you are
You have to learn to love you | You have to shine your own star!

I had the pleasure of listening in on a conference call a few nights ago entitled The Fruit of the Womb: Unlocking the Hidden Secrets from Your Own Birth Canal. The host of the call was Azziza Jafari; her guest speaker was my good friend and mentor Mu Shemsu-t of the Master Force International Leadership Academy. While the call was undoubtedly geared toward women, I found myself very interested in this topic which focused on“the secrets we carry with us from the programming we received while in the warm confines of our mother’s womb”.

There was a lot of healing and transformation during this call. One of the key elements that kept coming up was the need to be authentic in our interactions with others as well as within our own internal dialogue. This was a huge thing for me as I have been contemplating my own relationships and what I was contributing – good or bad – to each of them. In the realm of health and wellness, I asked myself if I had been genuinely pursuing my goals or was I just “talking the talk”. The answer was a nonjudgmental yet firm no.

Here’s something to give a try: make space in your day for about 5-10 minutes of conscious introspection (If you would like suggestions on how to meditate send me a note for suggestions) and ask yourself the hard questions where your body image is concerned. “Am I being loving toward myself and my body?” or “Who and I really losing this weight for?” are two that come to mind. Grab a pen and pad and jot down your responses. Are they showing you that you’re being authentic or are you “faking” your way around the issue. If it’s the latter, consider re-evaluating the core reasons behind what’s bothering you and consciously (and honestly) decide to do something about it. You may want to consider bringing in a coach or a mentor to help. Joy Tanksley and Flossie Alexander are both great when it comes to resolving body image and lifestyle challenges for the curvier among us. I highly recommend them both.

Is it easy to live authentically? No, it’s not. I’m still working on be more authentic and I know it’s a trait to must be cultivated daily. What’s important is that we begin to take note of those times when we are not being genuine – with others and ourselves – and make an effort to change the way we do things. Just being mindful of our authenticity (or lack thereof) is a step in the right direction. Do you have any suggestions for living more authentically? Please share them in the comments below.

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November 8, 2010

Your Body’s Calling

by M Stagg | The Voluptua Project™
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Image by seq via Flickr

Before anyone asks, no, I’m not referring to the R. Kelly song! So, what do I mean by your body’s calling? Read on to find out…

Look in the Mirror. What Do You See?

As a – ahem – man of substance, it’s not uncommon for me to look in the mirror and take a good long stare at myself. I’m not being narcissistic; in fact, I think it’s the opposite since most times I force myself to objectively survey the person staring back at me. What I’m doing is looking in the mirror for acceptance – self acceptance.

Learning to Love What You See

Like most people, I have my days when I love what I see in the mirror; some days, not so much. One the days when I feel like I’m having a poor body image day I:

  1. Breath
  2. Ask myself why I’m experiencing poor body image today
  3. Recall experiences when I’ve had a good body image day and see what made that day different
  4. No matter what, I affirm that I am a worthwhile human being regardless of my size and choose to be happy as I am.

Your Body’s Calling…Are You Listening?

Everyday, our bodies beckon us to accept the person we see in the mirror. It yearns for us to finally realize that we are more than our dress or pant size. It compels us to exercise our right to experience the love that no amount of fad dieting, surgery or “comfort food” can grant us – it’s called self love.

Do you hear your body calling? How do you heed the call? Feel free to share your experiences in the comments below.

September 5, 2010

It’s not about SIZE. It’s about SUBSTANCE!

by M Stagg | The Voluptua Project™

Plus ModelsGreetings TVP Fam!

I wanted to connect with you today regarding the new TVP slogan: It’s not about SIZE. It’s about SUBSTANCE.

I’ve had a few people email me asking what size do we cater to. Truthfully, when I first started TVP I thought that listing certain sizes would lead to a better focus (at least for me) on what was considered curvaceous. What I’ve come to learn is it is not about your dress – or pant – size. Not in the least.

It’s Not About Size

TVP, I’ve discovered, was never really about if you are a size 6 or a size 16. It is about feeling comfortable about yourself and the shell you were given. More importantly, it is about finding that comfort zone if you aren’t already there. Part of the mission at The Voluptua Project is to showcase people of varied shapes and sizes, male and female, that don’t exactly fit in with what beautiful and successful people look like. It challenges the norms and offers its own view of what beauty is and what it should be: Universal. That has nothing to do with size or weight and everything to do with accepting yourself as you are in this very moment.

It’s About Substance

Regardless of your shape, the size on the label or what people say about you as you walk by what defines you, as Martin said, is the content of your character. In the final analysis what matters most will not be measured by the circumference around your waist. It will be the expansiveness of your contributions to the betterment of the lives of others. Each day when you look in the mirror remind yourself that your ample bottom, your beautiful belly and your thick thighs are all blessings. Affirm to yourself that your body is beautiful vessel of love and nurturing. Confirm your worth by telling yourself daily that “I am a Divinely crafted masterpiece, complete and whole in every way”. And when you observe someone saying otherwise about you, don’t sweat it. Just smile and take delight in your own awesomeness!

For the rest of this holiday weekend – and forever after – celebrate your own unique awesomeness and encourage your fellow curvy ladies and suave gents to do the same.

Much love,

Michael

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