Let the Haters Hate

by M Stagg | The Voluptua Project™
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At some point in your life someone is going to criticize you. They won’t like the shape of your body. They won’t like the clothing you wear. They may not like the fact that you are seated next to them on the bus or train. There doesn’t need to be a justifiable cause for the way these people act toward you. We are all born to do something in our lives. For some, that thing is being a hater.

Let the Haters Hate

It’s futile to try to get a Hater to change their opinion of you. Sure, you could politely ask them why they feel the way they do but the answer will neither validate their judgement of you nor does their opinion matter. When you get to the core of it all, the person judging you (or when you judge others; it works both ways) is doing so because of some deep seated “flaw” they perceive about themselves.

Love Conquers All

The best thing to do when someone rolls their eyes at you, giggles as you pass by or says/writes something negative about you is smile. As Jesus said: “Forgive them for they know not what they do”. The Dhammpada states:

Not by hate is hate defeated;
Hate is quenched by love.
This is the eternal law.

Dhammapada 5

Nothing is more baffling to a naysayer than your unwillingness to feed their hate with more hate. It’s like a fire starved of oxygen; with no fuel it has no choice to find another fuel source or cease to exist.

So the next time someone makes a hateful comment about your body, your clothing, your smile or anything else about you simple smile and proudly state that you are happy with the you that you are and keep it moving! 🙂

For your viewing pleasure:

Hate on Me Lyrics

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2 Comments to “Let the Haters Hate”

  1. Thanks Weesha!

    I agree, it is hard to be kind in spite of one’s own mistreatment; I won’t lie and say I am always capable of doing so, either. I think as long as we keep in mind that our intention to should always be to conquer hate with love then we will be doing just that most of the time. Thanks for commenting. 🙂

  2. I love this article and it’s so true. It is a little tough to kill them with kindness, I usually prefer to just ignore them but you’re right- kindness would be more effective, baffling and maybe it would even change their opinion or habit.

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